Wednesday, August 20, 2025

Thankful for God’s Gift of Marriage, For the Gift of MY WIFE!

 

Dear Fellow Children of God, 

 

In the fall of 1979, I was a young pastor, just installed to serve the people of St. Paul Lutheran Church on the near north side of St. Louis, MO.  I had gotten to know the small group of people who were members of this part of God’s family.  Among those members were Harold and Wilma Knedel, rock-solid believers in their 50’s and weekly attenders in worship.  Wilma became ill, and needed open heart surgery.  The doctors expected the operation to go well, and also for Wilma to make a full recovery. But she never made it out of the operating room.  Harold called me, and then came to our home at the church parsonage.  He was devastated!  I listened and prayed with Harold.  He left our home broken-hearted.  Later I told Kathy that I was somewhat surprised at the depth of his grief.  Part of my reasoning was that, at that time, Kathy and I had been married for 2 years.  However, Harold and Wilma has been married for over 35 years!  That seemed like a long time to me.  That just goes to show the foolishness of youth in a 26 year old man.  CFW Walther, an important early leader in our denomination, once wrote that God gives wisdom, “by the Holy Spirit, through the school of experience.”  I lacked that wisdom.

 

I learned more the next spring when my father-in-law, Jim Tobin, died from lingering heart problems in April of 1980.  Jim was only 54!  This was someone much closer to me.  I watched as my wife grieved the loss of her beloved dad, and as my mother-in-law, Alice Tobin, dealt with the reality that her husband of 28+ years was gone.  It seemed to me that she was missing part of herself, which in fact, she was.

 

I learned more wisdom as my own parents passed on.  I was present as my mom died in the hospital in January of 2011.  My dad and mom had been married for over 58 years.  In many ways my dad deeply grieved the loss of my mom. He missed her terribly until the day of his own death.  I was beside my dad’s bed when he passed on August 25, 2018.  Later that afternoon his 5 children and other family visited the funeral home to make arrangements.  As we shared about my dad with those from the funeral home, one of those present was the lady who worked at the cemetery.  We told them, “He visited our mom’s grave almost every day.”  The lady from the cemetery asked, “Did he drive a brown Toyota?”  We replied, “Yes.”  She then responded.  “No! He was not there almost every day.  Your dad visited your mom’s grave EVERY DAY, and sometimes more than once a day.” My dad and mom had ‘become one’ through marriage!

 

I hope I am growing in wisdom.  At age 72, I now understand somewhat better about the bond of marriage.  Jesus quotes the words from the creation account in Genesis 2:24 and explains them to His disciples in Matthew 19.  “'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh' (Matthew. 19:5) When two people are married God binds those two people into one.  When one spouse inevitably dies, we have lost part of ourselves.  Often, it may seem we lost the most important part of ourselves.  My dad felt that way.

 

I share all this, as I write my weekly devotion on August 20, 2025, because Kathy and I were married on this day 48 years ago in Memphis, TN.  What I have learned through the experience of 48 years is that marriage is a gift from God.  But, my REAL gift is Kathy! She is a woman of faith who has stood beside me in spite of myself, who has loved and taught our children and grandchildren, and been a servant to God’s people in the churches I have served.  I do not deserve the love Kathy gives me.  But, she IS the best part of me.

 

Believe it or not, all these thoughts about marriage teach us about Jesus.  Paul seems to speak about wives and husbands in Ephesians 5:22-33, but then he explains a deeper truth.  31’Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”  (Ephesian 5:31-32) Perhaps you too have seen or experienced the passion, the depth, of the love between a husband and wife.  God tells us that Jesus loves his bride, the church, with such depth and passion.  In fact, God’s love is perfect, and greater than ours.  That is why Paul tells husbands, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25)  The Church, believers in Jesus, are the ‘bride of Christ.’  Jesus loves His children to the point of giving up His life for them, for us.

 

On Saturday evening, August 16, Kathy and I had the privilege of joining the celebration of Rick and Cathy Baldwin-Johnson’s 50th wedding anniversary.  We have friends from our youth who have now been married 50 years.  Kathy and I have only made 48 years at this point.  But the love of those 48 years grows deeper and deeper. 

 

And the love Kathy and I have for one another teaches me about the love our Savior, Jesus, has for us.  God is SO good!

 

A Child of God, Thankful for God’s Gift of Marriage, For the Gift of MY WIFE!

Pastor Rockey

 

P.S.  Here are some old and new pictures of Kathy and me.

 

P.P.S.    I am now serving Our Redeemer Lutheran in Chugiak, AK, as part-time Vacancy Pastor. 

 

  • The Youth who attended the LCMS YOUTH GATHERING in New Orleans made a presentation on Sunday, August 17.

 

  • The Our Redeemer Call Committee has been formed.  It includes Elder and chairman, Jerry Simpson, also Heidi Enlow, Ruth Keller, Theo Lee, Jacob Lewis, Scott Roelfs, and Martha Wilkins.  They met on June 4, July 1, July 22, and August 19.  The first step in the call process will be to complete a congregational self-study.  The Northwest District has the study and tools to help in this study.  The committee has asked for input for the self-study from ORLC leaders, and WILL ask input from members in coming weeks.   The goal is to turn in the self study, and nominations for pastor, to the Northwest District by October 1.

 

Regular Bible Studies and Sunday School

 

  • Adult Bible Study continues on Sunday mornings at 9:00 a.m.   The class is studying “Basic Christian Teachings.” On August 3 we studied about the Lord’s Supper.  On August 17 we concluded the study on Lutheran worship practices. On August 24 we will to study the 10 commandments.  Come and join us!

 

  • Summer Sunday School - Children have an opportunity to study during the summer as well.  Leah Rawlins is leading the children in studying the book of Ruth.  At the end of this study they may put what they learned into expression through legos.  All Children are WELCOME! 😊  (However, there is no Sunday School on August 31 (Labor Day Weekend!)

 

  • On Sunday, August 24, we will offer an acolyte class after worship.

 

Other Activities of Faith:

  • MANY CONTINUE TO READ THROUGH THE SCRIPTURE WITH ME IN 2024 and 2025 using the “Today’s Light Devotional Bible.”  We are now in the New Testament!  On Tuesday, August 12, we finished the book of Acts.  On Wednesday, August 20, we began the book of Romans.

Feel free to contact Pastor Rockey at 907-841-4066 if you have any questions about these readings.  Or send an e-mail question to jonrock53@mtaonline.net  I have recently received questions and comments.  It is always good to consider our Lord’s love and guidance. I will TRY to answer, but some things only God knows!

 

P.P.P.S. Family and Fishing!  -

 

  • On Monday, August 18, I took Dave Nufer, daughter Kaycee and her husband, Gavin Hanson, fishing on the Little Susitna River. We kept 2 silver salmon.  Unfortunately, the river closed to silver salmon the next day!  Here are some pictures. https://photos.app.goo.gl/jcddcW2Rm4BDJhwR7

 

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ABOUT THIS DEVOTION - I retired at the end of August 2019 from serving as full-time senior pastor of St. John Lutheran Church in Palmer, AK.  I was writing a weekly devotion previously entitled, "Thoughts from the Pastor."  When I retired many asked me to continue writing these devotions.  So I have continued writing.  However, with life's changes I now call this weekly devotion "Journeys Through Life as a Child of God."  Since I am no longer senior pastor at St. John, I felt it right to only send this message to those who asked to receive it.  (However, I am currently as Vacancy Pastor for Our Redeemer Lutheran Church in Chugiak, AK.)

So, if you stopped receiving these devotions and wondered why, now you understand.  And, if you are now receiving these devotions and do not wish to receive them, please let me know, and I’ll gladly remove your name from my distribution list.  My e-mail address is jonrock53@mtaonline.net.

My prayer is that these devotions help each of you in your daily walk with our Lord, Jesus.

 

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Jonathan Rockey

Child of God

Husband, Father, Son, Grandfather

Vacancy Pastor, Our Redeemer Lutheran Church, Chugiak, AK

Pastor Emeritus, St. John Lutheran Church, Palmer, AK

 

 

How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1 a)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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